The law of attraction says that like attracts like so a lot of LOA teachers will tell you to ignore what’s upsetting you and put your attention elsewhere when something undesirable presents itself. Now I’m not disagreeing, BUT there are other actions involved in order to divert your focus while releasing those feelings of annoyance, anger, etc. In this post I am going to go through a process that will help you to get through those moments, while releasing them, so they don’t creep up on you again in the future.
What if there was a way to get your feelings across without having to deal with the emotional hangover that direct and immediate confrontation sometimes brings? What if you could say all that you want to say to your mother, sibling, best friend, boss…ANYONE without sacrificing your well being? You can and right now I’m going to tell you how.
There is a technique that Michael Singer explains in his book, The Untethered Soul (my coach recommended this book to me and am I highly recommending it as well). What you do is, relax and release. What this means is this, when a situation arises that brings about a feeling of anger or jealousy, or anything that brings that uncomfortable feeling inside, instead of immediately responding with that negative emotion, simply relax into the present moment. Do not respond, instead start the process of releasing it by bringing your shoulders down, opening your chest and just breathing, in and out. You can go directly to the present moment, by just being aware of the feeling you are feeling. Really feel it, face it and while you’re feeling it just let it go right through you. Remember, it’s energy just like everything else and with practice you will understand that the initial feeling of anger and the after affects will subside, because you realize it’s just not worth it;
NOTHING IS WORTH SACRIFICING YOUR WELL BEING …NOTHING!
Right now you might be thinking, “Okay Rachel, well what do I do now, this person gets to do or say whatever to me and I won’t react?” NO! That’s not what I’m saying.
Once you have relaxed and released THEN you go for that confrontation or conversation. You go into it calm, still with all your feelings of what upset you to begin with, but you go in calm. You go in with purpose and love for yourself. You didn’t drink the poison, you poured yourself a glass, but you did not drink it. You allowed yourself whatever amount of time you needed to use self-care to relax and release first.
I know firsthand how this works. Sometimes it takes a few seconds to use this process and sometimes a good night’s sleep. If someone upset you at work, they might not even know it, so you will have the time to use this self-care process to avoid the emotional hangovers and unnecessary anxiety by reclaiming your glorious sense of well-being.
It all comes down to self-love and self-care. You will never convince anyone of anything through anger and neither can they convince you of anything through their anger.
Real change comes when you can communicate from a place of love and that love comes from yourself. If you are not willing to allow anyone to steal your joy then this process will work beautifully for you.
Each of us has control of only one thing in this world and that’s, our own feelings: What we think, what we feel, our reactions and the ability to stay calm. No one makes us do anything, we are doing everything ourselves, every bit of it ourselves.
I wish you a wonderful week of self-love and self-care and the knowledge that this is your show, if you don’t like how it going, write a new script, and redirect…it’s your life.